During my quest for Love, I’ve traveled in different places in the world to study how people would LOVE. I interviewed singles, couples, therapists and data scientists to understand more about the impact of digital on our love relationships and seduction. I compared “real” encounters to “virtual” serendipity. Throughout this long journey, I have read a lot of literature on Love.
Some very serious books written by psychologists and other lighter ones, such as this book I want to share with you. It is a very easy-read, yet very inspiring. You can take it with you on the bus, subway or anywhere… I found it on a shelf near the window of the bedroom I was renting on AirBnB. I was immediately attracted to its cover and title. Surprisingly good as it is written by a Zen Master. I’ve been gifting it to my close friends since.
I chose to share this Ted Talk to emphasize on the fact that we are still in the early stages of digital. We are discovering, testing, implementing. Digital makes us feel less lonely and is capable of boosting our egos in a split second. We are never cut off during a conversation and everyone is listening to us (rather being on Facebook or Quora).
Yet, we have never felt so lonely … Meditate
Happy New Year, wishing you a healthier digital life.
It strikes me how many more men used Tinder in 2015 compared to women (twice more).
But the most interesting element throughout my study has been the proportion of “in a relationship” users. I interviewed a few of them: why are you on this dating app? What will you do if you see your boyfriend/girlfriend on Tinder (how awesome would that be honestly?), what if you “pseudo-fall in love” on the app?
I develop this point in a chapter of my book and I truly was thrilled to investigate on this particular subject.
A more detailed post on the psychology of this “quasi-cheating” behavior coming soon.
Good morning to all love seekers, happy singles or lovebirds 🙂
I wanted to share this few-month-old article from Time Out NYC, which I thought would be interesting to all of you. Which new Apps have you tried lately? What is your favorite one? Feel free to share your experience with me or ask any advice in the comment section.
[Lion]
And she says she needs more than a friend
That’s all I ever been yo
Well one day you gon’ overstand yo badu
And I remember the first time that we met yo
How could I forget
When you smiled
And I turned and said to you
Yo, your pure and true
I’m in love with you, in love with you
I’m in love with you, in love with you
I’m in love with you, in love with you
I’m in love with you, in love with you, yeah
I’m so in love baby
I don’t care what your mama say
Standing in love lady
And I don’t care what your sister say
Yo badu I need ya
[Badu]
He said he’s really diggin me
I don’t know what to say
I can’t imagine why I feel so weak, say, say
That’s when he took my heart in his hands
And kissed it gently
He open up his lips then said this poetry
I’m in love with you, love with you
Love with you, love with you
Love with you, love with you
Love with you, love with you
I’m so in love baby
I don’t care what your brothers say, no
I’m so in love baby
I don’t care what the people say
[Lion & Badu]
Well I try and I try and I try
And I try and I try and I try and I try and I try
[Lion]
And you said you need more than a friend
That’s all I’ve ever been yo
Well one day you gon’ overstand yo badu
[Badu]
And when I look In your eyes
I know that you were meant to be
My solider so baby come on
I mean it desperately
[Badu & Lion]
I’m in love with you, love with you
I’m in love with you, in love with you
No see I’m in love with you, love with you
No, no, no I’m in love with you, in love with you
I’m so in love baby
I don’t care what the people say
Standing in love lady
And I don’t care what your sister say
I’m so in love baby
I don’t care what the writers say
(Badu-da-dee..)
I try, I try, I try, I try
You in love with me
You in love with me
No you in love with me
No, no, no you in love with me
No see you in love with me
No, no, no you in love with me
No you think you in love with
No, no, no you in love with me
I know you’re in love with me
No, no, no you in love with me
Alright I’m in love with you
Yes I’m in love you
I’m in love with you
And I’m in love with you
I’m in love with you
I’m in love with you
I’m in love with you
I’m in love with you
(Badu-badee…)
Yes I’m in love with you
Yes I’m in love with you
Today I went to a different yoga class at my usual studio. The class was a level-two-Flow; we started on our mats seated in Sukhasana. Up until then nothing felt wrong. I am usually very much into my own little world while practicing my daily yoga. Not wanting to get distracted by my surroundings. Although, for the first time in my seven years of practice, I couldn’t focus, my breathing got heavier and uneven, as the teacher started mentioning “Tinder” in her meditation script.
I mean honestly? I bet this app will be added to the English dictionary next year.
What could be the definition? “To swipe left or right with your index finger on your Smartphone’s screen in order to choose individuals – to meet them for intercourse, a relationship or who knows what .”
Definition of TINDER
noun tinder
shopping for an individual.
browsing through a database of men or women in your surroundings
looking for sexual passion or desire: “you look hot!”
longing for a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart : “Would you like to meet in person?”
An ego booster: “I can still seduce others, how awesome I feel amazing!”
verb tinderize, tindering.
to seek a virtual connection through superficial attraction.
to get cramps in your hands for swiping for hours left or right.
to have a strong liking in knowing every single person in your city
to keep options open (in case your boyfriend is also on TINDER and leaves you for a hotter match)
to dream of embracing and kissing (someone), as a lover in real life.
to idealize an individual you will never meet in person
Verb phrases
tinder up, I’ve overtinderized lately my index finger hurts badly
Idioms
The tinderization of human relations: without spontaneity or serendipity deprived.
Tinder addiction: someone who swipes as he breathes
Tinder sober: someone who meets people in a bar in real life.
Some very serious books written by psychologists and other lighter ones, such as this book I want to share with you. It is a very easy-read, yet very inspiring. You can take it with you on the bus, subway or anywhere… I found it on a shelf near the window of the bedroom I was renting on AirBnB. I was immediately attracted to its cover and title. Surprisingly good as it is written by a Zen Master. I’ve been gifting it to my close friends since.
LOVE IN THE DIGITAL WORLD 